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       When surveyed, the most popular subject on which HG life coaching clients wanted coaching was time management. So I am dedicating today's blog to helping you stop squandering your time and feeling out of control about it. We live in an age where you can't possibly get everything done. It's time to accept that. But, I still want you to get a lot of dreams accomplished and feel great about what you do with your days. It's important to face the fact that time is the currency of life and it's sacred. You cannot accomplish everything, but you can accomplish a lot of what is important to you with awareness, smart thinking and good promises. Now, read on for five ways you waste time and how to stop.
       1) You think giving less effort feels better.
       I learn this almost every time I exercise. My mentality is that if I conserve my energy, I will feel better. It's like I don't want to give in to the point of exercising! Luckily, I notice this (or remember my coach recommending it) and kick it up to giving 100 percent. Jumping actually feels better than trying to keep my feet on the floor during aerobics. All of a sudden, I am way more out of breath; I even may need to take an occasional break, but undeniably, I feel proud and happy. I have just made my workout more efficient, more fun and more empowering (so maybe I could spend less time). The high from endorphins and pushing myself also lasts far beyond the workout.
       This has universal implications. Think of times when you gave 100 percent to something. You probably resisted at first and then some higher voice kicked in, or some urgency (like a due date looming or a wedding gown to fit into) and suddenly you became bionic. Well, it turns out you can press the bionic button yourself, any time, if you want. Today. Regarding any to do you have, even if it's laundry. It will make you faster, smarter and more fun.
       2) You think it's not your job.
       I am upset to find that I waste mental energy denying, avoiding or justifying not getting to certain tasks, like thinking through something or cleaning up something. I tell myself someone else could do it better, or I'd be enabling someone else's dependency if I did it, or it's just not my job. All of these are code for brat attack. The truth is, if it's talking to me, it's probably mine to handle. It doesn't mean I can't delegate it, but I have to actually do that. The coaching: For all to dos that cross your path, boldly claim them as yours (and plan to accomplish them) or boldly and clearly delegate them. Either way, it is more efficient than discussing it with yourself or others ad nasueum.
       3) You don't like to ask for help.
       I swear, playing martyr often feels better in the moment than actually being powerful and effective. I actually get scared at the mere thought of effectively running a huge business. It keeps me feeling comfortable to be stressed, overwhelmed and mired in details. If I asked for help, then I'd have to be clear, direct, lead, be strategic and think bigger. Hard. Scary. (Me=Chicken.) If I asked for help, then I wouldn't look like I had it all together. If I asked for help, then I wouldn't get credit for doing everything myself. (Me=Brat.)
       I bet you have some similarly sneaky, dark reasons for not asking for help, but you'll never accomplish everything you want to without a team. You need to learn to ask for help. You waste a lot of time doing things that people around you should be doing or could be doing, that might even be good for them to practice. So, start thinking of chores you can give the kids and more responsibilities you can give to your staff. Some of you even need a promise to make three requests a day. It's fun to find out how people like to help.
       4) You don't admit when you are on a break.
       Because you like to look busy, important or put upon, you can't admit when you are taking breaks. Yes, surfing the Internet at work is a break, social networking (unless totally connected to work) is a break, staring off into space, talking with your mother, texting, listening to music as you drive, are all breaks. It's not that we shouldn't do these things, it's just that we don't relate to them as breaks. When we deny we take breaks, we get to be more stressed, and some of us are addicted to our stress. Feeling out of control makes us very inefficient.
       What if you had to commit to and design your breaks and give THEM 100 percent attention and purpose? And of course, you'd put the same commitment and design into your work time. This would take all the stress away, all the drama out of time management. It's terrifically grounding to know you can expect a break, give it to yourself, enjoy it and then go back to work with 100 percent gusto. Your parents may not have taught you this (though religions have tried), but I believe it is true: You need breaks and you need to fully break. Join me in this theory: The better you are at breaking, the better you will be at work. Instead of wasting time on many meandering, bratty, entitled, unplanned breaks, design fewer, shorter, more mature and richer ones.
       5) Drama takes time.
       When you deny how much time something requires and then have to do it at the last minute, you aren't as sharp or efficient. When you involve other people, but don't express your needs clearly, you create confusion that takes time to resolve. It's so important to learn from these mistakes and put structures in for correcting yourself. I have a promise to prepare for events more than 24 hours in advance. That way, I save energy I would have spent stressing about being unprepared and have a clear head so that I prepare efficiently. Also, like the first example of exercise above, the pride I feel from preparing in advance (versus rushed at the end or winging it) gives me energy and focus for the rest of the day. How can you avoid drama in your life?
       Learn how much time things take and then still pad your plans with extra hours, days or weeks to account for the unexpected; use what you've learned for your planning.
       Make rules for preparation and teamwork that protect against your common pitfalls of ineffectiveness (like my promise in #5).
       Resolve to be someone who has difficult conversations as issues arise, so nothing ever becomes a huge, time-consuming mess. Clearing the air always frees up time and energy.
       I hope you had a nice break reading this!
       Love, Laurie
       通过观察，HG生活培训课程中，时间管理最受欢迎。所以，我专门在今天的博客中，帮助大家停止浪费时间，并摆脱其间的无力感。在我们这个时代，你不可能面面俱到。是时候接受这个事实了。但是，我还是希望大家能实现很多梦想，并且感觉自己的日子棒极了。时间是生命的货币，它是神圣的直面这个事实，非常重要。你不能事事成功，但是通过清醒的意识、明智的思路和坚定的决心，你可以在自己认为重要的事情上，取得很多成就。那么，接下来就看看五种浪费时间的行为，以及如何停止。
       1）你觉得越少努力，感觉越好
       几乎每次做运动的时候，我都有这个感觉。我认为如果保留精力，自己感觉会更好。听起来我不愿意接受运动的好处！幸运的是，我注意到这点（或者想起教练的话），于是百分百投入。跳健美操的时候，感觉跳跃真的比站着不动要好。突然之间，我就接不上气了；我甚至需要偶尔休息一下，但不可否认，我感到又自豪又高兴。我让锻炼更有效，更好玩，更有力量感（那么也许，我可以少花一些时间了）。体内内啡肽高涨，不仅激励自己运动，其作用远远超过运动的范围。
       由此可以推导出一个普遍现象。想想那些你全力以赴的时候吧。一开始，你可能抗拒；然后，耳边响起一个更响的声音，或者一些紧急状况（如事情迫在眉睫，或者将自己塞进一件婚纱），于是突然之间，你变成了超人。那么意味着，只要你想，就可以随时按下超人键。就今天。不管任何你必须做的事情，即使是洗衣服，马上去做。这会让你更快、更聪明，也更有趣。
       2）你认为这不是你的事情。
       当我浪费精力否认、逃避或找借口不做某些事情的时候如好好想事情或打扫卫生，那我的感觉就很糟。我对自己说别人可以做得更好；或者我做了，就会惯着别人的依赖性；或者，这就不是我的事情。这些都是幼稚攻击的表现。真相是，如果它对我说话，那么可能就是需要我去处理的事情。这不是说我不能安排别人去做，而是我必须切切实实地处理。指南：所有在你生活道路上出现的待办事宜，你都要勇敢地承认是你的事情（然后计划完成它们），或者大胆明确地安排别人去做。无论哪种方式，都比你自己纠结，然后手忙脚乱，或和别人唧唧歪歪，来得更有效率。
       3）你不喜欢开口请求帮忙
       我发誓：鞠躬尽瘁，要比真正掌控和高效率做事，感觉要好得多。当一想到高效率从事一项大事业，我真的害怕了。当压力重重时，被细枝末节湮没，我感觉自在。假如我开口寻求帮助，那就必须条理清晰、直截了当、思路超前，具有战略意识，思考范畴更大。困难。害怕。（我是胆小鬼。）如果我开口请求帮忙，那么看来并非一切尽在掌控中。如果我开口请求帮忙，那么就不能赢得事必躬亲的名声。（我是小屁孩。）
       我打赌你不开口寻求帮助，也是有类似阴暗可怕的心理缘故；但是，你单打独斗，就做不成任何事情。你要学会寻求帮助。当你身边的人应该或能够做事甚至对他们来说有机会实践也不错的时候，你还做这些事情，就属于浪费时间了。那么，开始想想你可以让孩子们去做的琐事；还有可以给下属安排更多的责任。有些人甚至需要决心接受一项任务：每天开口请求三次。当发现人们是多么乐意帮忙的时候，这就非常好玩了。
       4）你不承认自己休息。
       因为想看起来忙忙碌碌、地位重要或责任重大，所以，当休息时，你是不愿承认的。是的，工作时上网浏览是休息；社交（除了完全属于工作上的应酬外）是休息；瞪着天空发呆、和母亲聊天、发短信，以及开车时听音乐，这些都是休息。问题不在于不该做这些事情；而在于我们没有将其视作休息。当我们否认休息时，就会感到更大的压力；而且，有些人对压力上瘾了。失控感让我们效率低下。
       如果承认休息，然后好好安排，并给予休息时段百分百的注意力，情况会怎样？而且，当然最好工作时，你也同样投入。这样就可以消除所有的压力，消除所有关于时间管理的纠结。你可以指望休息，让自己这么做，尽情享受，然后回来工作时，投入百分百的热情，这是很基本的知识。父母们可能没教过这些（尽管各种宗教都尝试过这点），但我相信这是真的：你需要休息，而且需要彻底地休息。大家和我一起接受这个说法：更好地休息，就可以更好地工作。与其浪费时间在很多漫无目、幼稚、各种名目、毫无计划的休息上，还不如安排少一些、短一些、更成熟和更有意义的休息节目。
       5）慌张忙乱花时间
       否认有些事情得花时间处理，然后赶在最后一秒，不得不去做，这种情况说明你不是一个头脑敏锐、高效率的人。当牵涉到别人时，无法清晰表述要求时，你制造的混乱就需要花时间解决。从这些错误中吸取教训并采取措施改正，是非常重要的。我下定决心：提前准备的时间一定要超过24小时。我用这个办法，节省了精力，否则，我就得因为事先没准备，而费力焦虑了；并且有精力保持头脑清晰，让自己准备的效率更高。而且，在上面第一点提到了关于运动的例子，事先准备的自豪感（而不是最后时刻的忙乱潦草）让我精神饱满，并且在那天其它的时间里，注意力集中。如何才能避免生活中的慌张忙乱？
       了解事情需要花费的时间，然后制定计划，考虑到意外情况，留出多一些时间几小时、几天或几星期；根据已有的经验，制定计划。为准备工作和团队工作制定规则，避免掉入通常的无效率陷阱（就象我在第五点中提到的决心那样）。
       当出现状况时，做一个对各种棘手问题进行谈话的人，那么事情就不会日积月累，成为大麻烦。让空气清新一直是释放时间和精力的良方。我希望你读本文时，已经好好休息了一下！